You hear the statement all the time. . . “Relationships are tough.” That’s right, they are. However, what makes them tough varies so significantly from one relationship to another that knowing the answer to the important question that plagues so many relationships is often hard to answer: “How can we fix this?” As a clinical…
Change Things Up This Valentine’s Day
Valentine’s Day is fast approaching! If you are a woman, you might feel as though you should be on the receiving end for this holiday….
Perpetual Problems
John Gottman, a leading researcher and therapist for couples, found that 69 percent of all problems in relationships are considered “perpetual problems.” These are problems…
New Year, New Relationship Goals
It’s that time of year again. A quick flip of the calendar and we are now at the start of 2021. I am sure many…
Listening
One of the most important jobs we have when entering a romantic relationship is to be emotionally invested in our partner. To do so, listening…
Sync Your Rhythms
If you think of your average day, there is a rhythm to it. How you navigate the world, who you see, the actions you take,…
Communication: The Art of Timing
When we experience strong emotion within our relationship, it’s generally met with a strong urge. This urge is often to pull away or to lean…
Communication: Accepting Feedback
When someone we love gives us feedback, how we respond matters significantly in moving the relationship forward or moving it further apart. When the feedback…
Communication: Avoid the Labels
As I’m sure we all know about relationships, communication is key. But, it’s not just important that you know TO communicate. It’s also important that…
Can We Want What We Already Have?
In the famous words of Ariana Grande, “I want it. I got it.” But, what happens afterward? Can you want something you already have? Can…
Assumptions
Mind reading. Assuming. Catastrophizing the outcome. We do these things all of the time. We read our environment and our partner’s reactions and we make…